Mandy Len Catron’s essay “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This” includes a list of 36 questions to ask a partner while staring in their eyes. The following is a list of questions to ask your self. Spending time with yourself, checking in, listening to yourself and gazing deep into your own eyes is therapeutic and grounding. The exercise is designed to develop self love, acceptance and encouragement.
To really fall hard, do this:
1 Find a mirror
2 Read the questions and look into your own eyes while you answer each one.
3 Feeling silly is allowed
Do as many as you like. You can stop between sections and come back later, or do the whole thing over and over to see how your answers develop.
Do you like staying up late?
Have you ever traveled alone?
If you were royalty what would your bedroom look like?
What’s really working in your life right now?
What are you good at?
What is the most unusual thing about you?
Who do you want to be?
What is your best imperfection?
Do you believe everything you think?
Do you drink coffee?
Have you ever skinny dipped?
What do you think about getting up early?
What’s your favorite part of life?
What do you do to celebrate it?
How do you feel right now?
What makes you smile?
What do you want?
Do you want to be happy?
What was the most fun you’ve ever had?
what do you love to do to relax?
when will you do that next?
Have you ever lived alone?
Who is your best friend?
What’s the easiest way to make them laugh?
Who is the last person you had a crush on?
What was so great about them?
Who do you look up to the most?
How do they deal with difficult situations?
Who are you looking forward to seeing soon?
What will you say to them?
Who is the most positive person in your life?
How to they respond to good fortune?
Who praises you most?
What do they appreciate about you?
Who makes you feel loved?
Do you want to love yourself?
What do you have in your pockets?
What do you need to be you?
Would you like a treat?
What are you proud of?
What do you want to learn next?
What are you most grateful for?
What are you looking forward to?
What lesson did you learn from your last hardship?
Do you do more things that hurt your body or your mind?
Do you want to live a meaningful and healthy life?
What do you Regret?
If your friend regretted that what, would you say compassionately to help them forgive themselves?
What color is the sky?
What are you afraid of?
What do you really want?
What is next on your bucket list?
What do you like about yourself?
Do you spend more effort looking after your body or your mind?
What is your favorite thing to do alone?
What do you really want to do?
Do you want to be successful?
What characteristic of yours is most likely to make you succeed?
What has been your biggest accomplishment?
What will your next accomplishment be?
How will you celebrate?
What do you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life?
What’s your favorite thing to wear?
Do you like to dance?
Is there anything you are not being honest about to yourself?